I'm 22 Weeks Pregnant (Here's What I've Learned So Far)

It's gone by SO fast, but I've learned SO MUCH

October 7, 2019

Well, it's been an interesting 5 months.  My first pregnancy and a LOT of change has already happened... with plenty more to come.  

Here are a few things I have learned so far during my pregnancy. 

Every momma's experience is completely different! 
No amount of googling or talking to other pregnant friends could prepare you for this experience.  When I see people, I am often met with concerned eyes and the question "how are you feeling?"... The answer is, I have felt REALLY great.  Very minimal food aversions.  My first trimester was virtually nausea free.  A bit of fatigue and hormones is really all I can complain about.  I'm well into my second trimester now and I've had amazing energy.  My boyfriend and I went on an 8 day, 3 city, European adventure and it could not have gone better.  We walked 6-8 miles almost every day and ate our way through each city, with minimal complaints from me or little baby.  I am blessed to, so far, have had such an easy and stress free pregnancy.  

A growing belly is a beautiful, confusing thing. 
For about 4 months, I've stood in the mirror in the morning just waiting for the bump to show.  I asked my boyfriend almost daily, "Do you see it yet?!"... His response on most days was, "nope, not yet!".  Finally at about 20 weeks, I popped!  To be completely honest, I have had mixed emotions.  As someone who has been relatively petite, health and fitness conscious for most of my life... it's been an interesting experience watching the number on the scale climb each week.  I know weight gain and growth is GREAT and 100% necessary for baby boy, but for year’s society has drilled it into women's heads that weight gain is bad.  So it is terrible that some days I miss putting on my tight, skinny jeans and crop tops?  Don't get me wrong, it is so amazing to watch my belly grow as the weeks go by, and even crazier to think that there's HUMAN in there... but some days I feel like a sausage squeezing into casing with these maternity jeans.  So, to combat these hormones and mixed emotions... I've made a point to look at the 20 week ultrasound picture posted in our bedroom and then in the mirror at myself and said out loud, "My body is SO amazing!”, because it really is!  In 4 short months, I'll be holding my little baby boy and forget ever fretting over any of this.  And a few months after that, I'll probably miss holding him in my belly and feeling his little love kicks throughout the day. 

I have no idea what I'm doing.  And that's ok. 
So many questions.  So much advice.  So many books and blogs to read. So many things to do in the next 4 months before baby comes.  It's hard not to feel completely overwhelmed and out of your mind, right?  Of course, I've gotten a lot of (mostly unsolicited) advice and opinions.  But some of the best I've gotten so far was from a friend this weekend.  Her son is 3 years old.  She works in the music business and travels a lot for work, just like me.  We talked for a LONG time... but the greatest take aways I got from our conversation were: 
1. There is NO book to give you all the answers.  We ALL stumble through parenting.  No one has all the answers because everyone's kid and experience as a parent is unique.  So give yourself a break!
2. The opinions of others doesn't matter.  Especially about the NAME! 
3. Take care of YOURSELF and YOUR KID first.  
It was like a weight lifted off my shoulders.  I've been reading a lot and feeling so in over my head lately.  To hear a fellow mom tell me that you don't have to have it ALL figured out was a huge relief.  You and your partner will work through it, in your own way and on your own time.  And that's the most important part. 

Ok, I think I've rambled enough.  I've learned SO much more than this, but I think that's enough for today.  Thank you for ALL the love and support. 
XOXO Molly + Baby